I Hope You Know That I Would Prefer To Know {a Poem}
Tiffany Haug, MS, RDN, EDOC
I don’t know why I feel the way I do
But I know I need to get it out of my head
And have my words be heard by you
I don’t know why I think the things I do
But hope you’ll let me share
Because the things I don’t yet understand
Can still be true
Will you listen to my tangents
I need to hear my words received by you
I realize my thoughts come out as fragments
I hope you know
I would prefer to know
Why I think the things I do
Please also know
That all I have right now
Are the snapshots
I think your listening ears
hold the power
To let me know its okay if I ponder
For hours
To give me permission
That you love me despite
The fact that I can't understand
Why I feel the things I do
But I know this much
I need my words to be heard by you.
Thank you.
Ever kept yourself from sharing something that has been on your mind because you felt you had no excuse to feel the way you did?
Me too.
The strange thing about us as humans that we seek to understand the reason behind something, and with good reason. It’s so important to know what motivates our actions and thoughts.
But not every thought or feeling is a puzzle that can be solved, especially in recovery.
And when we limit ourselves to just sharing the things we’ve figured out the reasons behind, we prevent ourselves from receiving the sense of comradery and compassion that we need—often far before we’ve figured out the “why” of how we feel a certain way.
We don’t have to have all of our feelings figured out.
Its okay to feel things or think things and not know why.
Tiffany Haug, MS, RDN, EDOC is a Master's level Dietitian in San Diego who specializes in helping individuals with Eating Disorders make peace with food and their bodies. Tiffany knows that working through recovery can be incredibly hard. Being herself recovered for almost a decade, she is incredibly honored to now be able to give back by supporting her clients along this challenging, but so-very-worth-it journey. In addition to being an Eating Disorder Dietitian, Tiffany serves as the Education Chair for the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (IAEDP) San Diego Chapter and works as a Pediatric Dietitian at Rady Children's Hospital in San Diego. Learn more about Tiffany here.
